Racing thoughts. Inability to sit still. Believing the “what ifs.” Anxiety can feel like a total beast to tackle on your own.

Maybe we’ve also believed for far too long that anxiety is bad. While it definitely can “feel” bad, it’s time to flip the script and understand what it’s telling us and how we can change our relationship to it. In therapy, we can uncover your story of anxiety, driving factors, and work to create lasting change together.

Infertility has been described as a “silent life crisis” and I believe that wholeheartedly. The grief and uncertainty around when or how you will become pregnant is so heavy. The deep pang of watching others’ bellies grow and getting another baby shower invite is hard to banish. I also have trusted referrals I love working alongside in supporting your TTC journey.

Perinatal mental health, (the period from conception to a year after birth), can be so complicated and yet one of the most beautiful and meaningful times in a woman’s life. Old stuff can come up. Identity questions loom. Dishes pile up and you might want to rage at the dog that just. won’t. quit. barking. Throw in PPA, PPD, and PPOCD and it seems like the road is so much more treacherous. Let’s work to make it as smooth of a ride as possible (and more baby hugs without the guilt). By the way, you aren’t a bad mom for struggling.

While being a “mom” is a tale as old as actual time, matrescence is a newer term for the process of becoming a mom. If adolescence is the process of a child becoming a teen, matrescence is the process of a woman becoming a mom. Similar to how the teenage brain is pruning, rewiring, and refining, moms are going through their own process. Internally, your world is overstimulating, confusing, and overwhelming. Externally, moms are told there’s a correct way to act, how to think, how to parent, and ultimately, how to mom. We work together to find your own brand of mom, and find your own peace of mind.

ADHD in women can be hard to spot. But postpartum and the demands of motherhood on your time, energy, emotions, and resources makes ADHD symptoms explode.

Maybe you’ve always had an inkling that something just wasn’t quite right with how you processed the world. Maybe you’ve felt that life just seems to be easier for others. Others can stay on top of their schedules better. Others can remember important dates and where they put their shoes. Others can remember to do their taxes. Maybe you obsess over a relationship or replay a conversation over and over again, worried about if you showed up weird or awkward. You’re smart, but maybe you spaced out in school and got by because you luckily had a friend who told you what the homework was. Emotions and your sense of worth go up and down. Forgetting things feels easier than remembering them. All the planners and notebooks and systems that you bought pile up dust in the corner. Overfunctioning just to get through the day has left you burnt out and tired.

ADHD might be at play here.

If you resonate with The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control, you’re in good company. You enjoy work. You love the drive. You don’t want to slow down and you definitely don’t want to lose your edge. Maybe you’re worried about starting therapy because you don’t want emotions to get in the way.

The good news is it takes one to know one. I’m not here to change your perfectionism—I’m here to retool it. Women get told too often that they shouldn’t be perfectionists, but what they should hear is that they can lead a life of achievement, but with balance. Therapy with me won’t change your drive. We will learn to be purposeful together. Let’s add fun and depth and rest to the mix, shall we?

You’ve done the work for so many. Now it’s time to do the work for you. Burnout. Imposter syndrome. The daily grind of meeting everyone’s needs and not your own makes you space out over the weekends. The thought of opening your schedule makes you panic. The thought of people asking you for one more thing makes you want to rage.

Doing good work for others starts with doing your own good work.